Modal Operators of Necessity – Can’t vs. Don’t – Meta Model language patterns…
In NLP the Meta Model refers to specific patterns of language that effect how you frame your ideas about our behaviour.
By changing one little word you can change how your thinking or saying something feels, as well as have a HUGE impact on how your thoughts will impact others.
This is really important because some people are very unaware of how they “victimize” themselves unintentionally.
For instance both the words can’t and don’t are examples of the meta-model language patterns called “modal operators of necessity”.
When you say to yourself “I can’t” do something, this is very different from saying that “I don’t” do something.
It changes your perspective and how you feel about your behaviour.
“Can’t” is very disempowering and is often misused by people who are actually able but unwilling to do something.
“Don’t” is more neutral and allows you to be more honest about your behaviour. It’s more of a observation rather than a statement about your ability to do something.
Can’t sets you up to be a victim and takes away your power.
Victims are powerless to change and thus it doesn’t feel very good to use the word can’t inappropriately.
I say inappropriately because there are circumstances where you are truly unable to do something and there is nothing wrong with using the modal operator “can’t” in those instances.
It’s just a matter of whether you are victimizing yourself unintentionally.
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